Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Potty Training...

Kenzington has been trying to figure out the whole potty training thing. She's got it about half down, which means mom either has the other half or cleans up messes! Giggling. The funny thing is that she goes best here at home with a Dora or Barney book in hand. I think when she's 12, if she sees a Dora or Barney book lying around, she'll probably pee her pants!

Her newest thing is to come up to me and say, "Mommy, want naked!" In fact she just threw a royal hissy fit because I told her that right now she needs to wear clothes! GOODNESS!

She refuses to use public restrooms- I think because of the strange toilet seats, and that has made it all interesting. We have to bring her home once in the middle of church to go potty! The other day a prescription at WalMart took about 3 times longer than it should have. She told me she needed to potty about 6 times in the hour worth of roaming the store, and each time I took her and each time she couldn't get herself to go. As soon as we finally were able to pick up the prescription, she peed her pants. The lady gave me a dagger, to which I replied that it was her fault, not mine or my daughter's! I hope she enjoyed cleaning it up!

Anyway, I have spent more time in front of the potty with that cute girl in the last month than I care to! But I have also spent less money on diapers and enjoyed the time I have spent with her in there for the most part. Her vocabulary has increased immensely because of the book reading. My favorite is that she says, "arma-diLLL-O!" giggling.

She's such a fun little girl and I can't imagine life without her.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Eyes To See...

Last week in church, our neighbor girl, Madison, sang the following song:

What Heaven Sees in You

Sent to this earth, you were saved through the ages for this day and time.
Child of great worth, child of promise, daughter of the divine;
Pure and holy, in a little white dress
You were held in a circ
le and you were blessed.
And the Father looked down and the angels surrounded that place.
They knew the truth—all that you could do
And you will too if you have eyes to see
What heaven sees in you.

Dressed in white once more, making promises to follow in God's way.
So much lies in store for the little girl who enters at the gate.
Pure and holy, in a little white dress
You were led into the water and you were blessed.
And the Father looked down and the angels surrounded that place.
They knew the truth—all that you could do
And you will too if you have eyes to see
What heaven sees in you.

Do you understand who you are?
Part of the Father lives in you.
And if you continue on this path
Every promise God has given will come true.

Heaven on earth, in the House of God so much fills your heart and mind.
Woman of great worth, woman of promise, daughter of the divine;
Pure and holy, in a long white dress
You promise forever and you are blessed.
And the Father looks down and the angels surround that place.
They know the truth—all that you can do
And you do too, 'cause you have eyes to see
What heaven sees in you.

Will you have eyes to see what heaven sees in you?

©2001 Doug Walker & Sherry Marks Walker

Madison is about 12 years old and was born with some cranio-facial abnormalities, among other things. She has been through countless surgeries. In addition to this, her father died suddenly about 7 years ago.

Although I had taken a wiggly and loud Kenzington to the foyer, I still managed to really feel the Spirit through Madison's beautifully sung song. I know that there have been lots of times when Madison, along with much of the world, has had a hard time seeing what Heaven sees in her.
And it hit me really hard. Lately I have been too busy and felt too incapable of too much. I have NOT had eyes to see what Heaven sees in me. And I have been impatient with my children and critical of others and I've forgotten to see what Heaven sees in each of them.

Recently, we started Kamden on medication for attention deficit disorder. Starting him was a decision that we have mulled over for a long time, not sure if it was something that we wanted for him or not. Part of what led to us trying medication is that he has had behavior problems at school recently and we were at a lack of what else to do.

Although the first week or so we saw a lot of side effects and there were moments that were rough, we also saw a LOT of benefits right away that made it so we didn't mind waiting out the rough-spots. The change in him is miraculous! I am sooooooo grateful that we decided to try this medication!

Part of ADD is that one area of the brain is understimulated while other areas of the brain are overstimulated. Children who have ADD go looking for ways to stimulate that area of the brain. Computer games and extremely stimulating toys do the trick, but turning people into toys does the trick as well. Cause and effect is a great game for kids with ADD and with Kamden, he doesn't care about people being mad at him or if what he does to them hurts them or whatever, as long as the result is stimulating.

The medication sort of "equalizes" the brain so that all areas are stimulated the correct amount. Suddenly there is no reason to annoy others intentionally or get into trouble for fun!
Wow! We have suddenly been able to see the real Kamden again and it has been amazing! I think he is a little shocked, too.

It reminds me a bit of when Boston first got her glasses (at age 2) and as the woman gave her the mirror to see herself, her eyes really lit up and she actually didn't want to give the woman the mirror back! She hadn't seen herself in so long that she forgot what she looked like!

Today in primary, the kids were each given a little red heart that they were supposed to take home with them and, sometime this week, give to someone that they had performed an act of service for. Shortly after church our family was about to have family council when Kamden disappeared in the other room. He had gone into our room to make our bed. Through a strange series of events, the shower curtain that my mom recently bought for her new bathroom (being built in our basement right now) ended up left on our bed this morning. Kamden didn't know it was a shower curtain and it got made into our bed! So cute! Kamden also took our scriptures and laid them on our pillows for when we study later. So sweet!

NONE of these things were things that Kamden would have done a few weeks ago. He would have possibly wanted to do something kind for us, but would never have taken the initiative to do it, especially alone.

I am grateful for the reminder from Madison to see what Heaven sees in me and to look for what Heaven sees in others. I am grateful for Kamden's medication that is helping EVERYONE to see what Heaven sees in Kamden and for the benefits it has alread had in his life. I KNOW that we made the right decision for Kamden in beginning this medication.