Sunday, June 21, 2009

Dear Daddy-

Dear Daddy,

I've been convinced for a long while that you can read my blog from the Spirit World, so why not have it be written directly to you now and then?

Today Dave got to come home from Guard, just for the day, for Father's Day. He has to go back in the morning and we won't see him for another week, but it's so nice to have him, even though it's just for the day. He came in at the end of church and surprised us!

I wish you could come home, just for the day, for Father's Day. Boy, wouldn't we be surprised! I'd love to see you interact with my kids. You'd joke around with Holden and bounce Kenzi on your knee. You'd listen to music with Kamden and tell Boston some more knock-knock jokes. You'd rock little Paxton and talk about his cute smile. And you'd give me a big hug and a kiss and tell me that you're proud of me

You were the best Daddy. I miss you so much!

Happy Father's Day!

Love Always,
Valerie

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Ah-hah moment!

I have found myself looking for advice often on how to parent one particular child of mine that is difficult to parent. I've bought lots of books and delved into them full force. Yet I am not one who enjoys reading because I am such a slow reader (probably because of eye problems!) and I HATE sitting still for that long cuz if I sit still, I fall asleep and I DON'T HAVE TIME TO FALL ASLEEP! Anyway, in my efforts to figure out a plan that will work for my son I have more recently purchased audiobooks and listened to them on my ipod while cleaning etc. This worked really well and this morning I found myself online looking for more of the same!

But then it occurred to me, later this morning, that I was going about this all in the wrong way. I have been looking for advice in all the wrong places! While these sources have been very very helpful, I have forgotten the most important source. The Lord.

In the past, Dave and I have made it a habit to "take inventory" with our kids. What does each one of them need? What does each one of them want? What can we do differently and what are we doing right?

It's been a while since we've done it.

I've turned to my Heavenly Father for help with parenting often, but usually when things are in crisis mode. Why should I wait for them to get there? Things are actually going really well with the kids lately, but that doesn't mean they will stay that way! Why not ask their Maker for His opinion on how to parent them?

I don't think I am done with parenting books. But I DO think I'll turn to another source for His opinion on which ones to buy and on other resources to use. And I'm pretty sure He can help me when I'm in the trenches of parenting and I can't remember a thing those books said!

Thursday, June 4, 2009

He made it!

Here is some video of Kamden at his kindergarten program. This was one of his favorites, I can tell!

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My camera battery died before the song that made me bawl, but here are the words to it.

Music and Lyrics by Steve James
© 1997, BMI.

I like being me
And my friends help me see
I'm somebody special
Happy as can be
I feel good inside
When I do what's right
I help my friends and family
I like being me

This year's been a rough one. Kamden's behavior has become more and more defiant at school. There have been sooo many times that I didn't think he'd be participating in Kindergarten graduation. He's so smart, but not everybody can see that because of bad decisions that he makes.

We're working on it! I'm looking forward to having him home all summer and getting him into a positive mode, and then hoping for a better year. He's such a fun and wonderful boy and I'm so glad he's a part of our lives.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Growing, Growing, Gone!


Holden graduated from preschool last week. He's had lots of fun walking over to Miss Julie's everyday! He's learned a lot, too. We're sad to see it come to an end, but excited for summer. Here's one of the songs that they did at graduation. We love you Holden!

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A friend posted on facebook this morning that her son is graduating from high school today. I had said son in primary! Before you know it, I'll be announcing to the world that Holden is graduating from high school! I'm going to enjoy every minute between now and then!